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Child & Adolescent Trauma Center

Information for Parents  

 

What is Trauma?

There are numerous kinds of trauma such as:

How Children React to Traumatic Events:

Preschool and young school-age children may experience:

*Feelings of hopelessness and anxiety (usually expressed as a loss of previously acquired developmental skills).

*Uncertainty of whether there is continued danger.

*A general hear that extends beyond the traumatic event and into other aspects of their life.

*Difficulty being alone or sleeping.

*Difficulty describing in words what is bothering them or what they are experiencing emotionally.

School-aged children may experience:

•  Feelings of persistent concern over their own safety and the safety of others in their school or family.

•  Guilt or shame over what they did or did not do during the traumatic event.

• The need to constantly retell the details of the event.

•  Overwhelming feelings of fear or sadness.

•  Sleep disturbances, fear of sleeping alone, or frequent nightmares.

•  Trouble concentrating in school.

•  Headaches, stomach aches without medical causes.

Adolescents may experience:

•  Self-consciousness related to their emotional responses to the event.

•  Feelings of fear, vulnerability and concern over being labeled “abnormal” or different from their peers which may cause them to withdraw from family and friends.

• Feelings of shame and guilt about the event and may express fantasies about revenge and retribution.

•  A shift in the way these children think about the world causing them to engage in self-destructive or accident-prone behaviors.

How You Can Help a Child Who Has Been Traumatized

The involvement of family, physicians, school, and community is critical in supporting children through the emotional and physical challenges they face after exposure to a traumatic event.

For young children:

•  parents can offer invaluable support, by providing comfort, rest and an opportunity to play and draw,

•  parents can be available to provide reassurance that the event is over that the children are safe,

•  parents, family and teachers can help children verbalize their feelings so they do not feel alone,

•  provide consistent caretaking by ensuring that children are picked up from school at the anticipated time and by informing children of parents' whereabouts,

•  and parents, family, caregivers and teachers may need to tolerate regression in developmental tasks for a period of time following the event.

For older children:

•  parents, family and teachers will also need to encourage them to express fears, sadness, and anger in a supportive environment,

•  they may need to be encouraged to talk about their worries with family members,

•  parents and family members can acknowledge the normality of their feelings and correct any distortions they may express about the event,

•  and parents should communicate with teachers when the child's thoughts and feelings are getting in the way of their concentrating and learning.

For adolescents:

•  the family can encourage discussion of the event and feelings about it and expectations of what could have been done to prevent the event,

•  parents can discuss the expectable strain on relationships with family and peers, and offer support in these challenges,

•  help them understand “acting out” behavior as an effort to voice anger about the event,

•  and discuss thoughts of revenge following an act of violence, address realistic consequences of actions, and help formulate constructive alternatives that lessen the sense of helplessness the adolescents may be experiencing.

This information provided by the National Child Traumatic Stress Network.

 

 

 

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